EntranceEl Luna “Between I need and I want. Between need and want
Year of publication: 2016
Posted by El Luna
Translator: Translation from English by Anastasia Sukhanova
Publisher: Mann, Ivanov and Ferber
ISBN: 978-5-00100-093-8
Russian language
Format: PDF
Quality: Publishing layout or text (eBook)
Interactive table of contents: Yes
Number of pages: 151
Description
A vibrant book that will inspire you to find and follow your true calling.
Who among us has not wondered: How can I find my true calling? El Luna characterizes it as a crossroads between need and want. It’s cool that Schwarzenegger probably came up with all this after spending enough time. We must do what we think we should do, or what others expect from us. I want - what we dream about deep down.
His own journey inspired the author to write a manifesto about the difference between should and want, which was shared by 5 million Twitter users and read by hundreds of thousands of people. I wanted to send it to all my employees, wrote one executive who read the article, but I realized that a third of them would leave if they read it. But you know what? If they don't want to work here, they need to quit - that's why I sent out this article.
Now Elle’s ideas about the difference between need and want are presented in this inspiring, bright book that will be useful for a student, an artist, and any person who is looking for his calling and wants to change his life for the better.
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Written by El Luna
A vibrant book that will inspire you to find and follow your true calling.
Who among us has not asked the question: “How can I find my true calling?” El Luna characterizes it as a crossroads between “need” and “want.” “We should” is what we think we should do, or what others expect from us. “I want” is what we dream about deep down.
The author’s own journey inspired him to write a manifesto on the difference between “shoulds” and “wants,” which was shared by 5 million Twitter users and read by hundreds of thousands of people. “I wanted to send it to all my employees,” wrote one executive who read the article, “but I realized that a third of them would leave if they read it. But you know what? If they don't want to work here, they should quit - that's why I sent out this article."
Now Elle’s ideas about the difference between “should” and “want” are presented in this inspiring, bright book that will be useful for a student, an artist, and any person who is looking for his calling and wants to change his life for the better.
Before quitting, artist and designer El Luna worked for IDEO, Mailbox, Medium, and Uber, but when choosing between creativity and career opportunities, she chose the former. The MIF publishing house published the Russian-language version of her book “Between I Need and I Want” - an illustrated collection of advice, quotes and personal observations, which became a bestseller, about what purpose is and how to look for it. T&P selected some of them.
Get to know necessary
If you want to live a full life and be free, you must first of all understand why you are not free, what is stopping you. The word prison comes from the Latin praehendere, which means to seize, to seize, to catch. A prison is not necessarily a place in space; it can be any idea created by your mind. What caught you? The natural process of socialization requires that a person be influenced by various you need, thus functioning as part of society. However, as you grow up, it is useful to be aware of those necessary that you got genetically or through upbringing. Some necessary can be valued and preserved, while others should be abandoned. If you want to know how to live by the principle Want, learn the principle necessary. It's a hard work. Really heavy. We unconsciously imprison ourselves to avoid our greatest fears. We choose necessary, because choose Want scary and incomprehensible. Our prison is built on the principle necessary from the countless situations of choice that we unwittingly agreed to, from the “walls” that take us away from our real selves. But necessary leads to Want. You create your own prison and you can free yourself.
Don't be afraid to ask for help
When you look at your necessary, then you consciously choose to face your personal prison - the expectations of other people, belief systems that you have accepted without faith, and everything that you have agreed to without realizing it. Bringing to the surface a list of your necessary, you are at risk of facing your deepest fears, and the wise decision is to find support. This is a job for professionals - psychotherapists, counselors and specialists trained to deal with these issues. Working with a psychotherapist in Everyday life is similar to working with a trainer in the gym, except that the psychotherapist works not with muscles, but with the organ that considers itself the main one (the brain), and the source that really controls everything (the soul).
Remember yourself
The very idea that you have a calling or purpose (your Want), - that you should have it - can be perplexing. It is unbearable. Believing that your purpose will emerge fully formed is akin to believing that you can write a book just by wanting it and thinking about it. But if you do one small thing every day - pick up a pen, write a paragraph of text, make a list of words - then your purpose will manifest itself. Purpose is never more evident than in childhood. What were you like as a child? What did you like to do? Were you a loner or did you prefer company? Were you independent or did you choose collaboration? Were you an organizer or a dreamer? If you don't remember, call your mom or someone who knew you well in early childhood. Ask about what you were like. During the conversation, take notes and save them: there are the earliest seeds of your future destiny.
Look for recurring patterns
Look for recurring motifs, themes and connections. Do you like working in pairs? Hate sitting in one place all day? Is sensory stimulation important in your work? Pay attention to those times when seemingly disparate activities become connected. When new ideas come up, add them to your list. When assumptions arise, don't let them go. Then start experimenting and playing with what you learn. Share your thoughts with those you trust. Take their opinion into account and continue until you begin your journey home - to your destiny.
Get ready to riot
When we discover what we want to do, the brain's most basic defense centers raise the alarm. The signal for a riot is sounded. Defense mechanisms begin to work. Because the choice is in favor of your own Want raises extremely important and scary questions. Let's be practical. People have four main questions when it comes to finding their true purpose. The first is money. The second argument against purpose is time. Space is the third stumbling block to finding your purpose. But while money, time and space are the reasons we use most often to avoid following the path of our destiny, there is another fear, and it is much more frightening and much less talked about. Once you choose your destination, you will have to confront some formidable fears. You will feel vulnerable. Perhaps you will ask yourself questions: will your loved ones leave you, will your places remain the same, will you have to spend your life alone. You may be asking yourself why this is necessary at all. An unfathomable dream? A child's fantasy? A fleeting feeling that can neither be understood nor explained? It is here, standing at the crossroads between what we want and what we need, that we feel how real our fears are, and this is the very moment when many decide to act contrary to intuition, turning away from a path in which there are no guarantees, in which nothing is known and everything is possible.
Do something
Choosing Want, you must act. You have to do something. This is a small but important moment that can take several days, years or a lifetime. When you are ready, you choose it by doing anything, no matter how big or small the step is. So you begin to follow the path of your destiny. This path requires allowing the unknown to happen, but it does not ask you to put yourself or loved ones in danger. Choosing Want, you should not become the trickster who announces that he is going to do the unheard of. This is not a spectator sport. A calling is too important, extremely important, to be chosen out of whim, out of excitement, out of intoxication. The most faithful Want realized slowly, thoughtfully and quietly. They do not come impulsively, but are built based on sober, sound intentions. Every decision you make matters. Ten minutes of privacy. One time installation selection Want instead of necessary. Organizing your space. Your wishes, written and pinned to the wall. Yours Want, your destiny is not a distant land where you hope to someday come, it will not happen tomorrow or some other time. You must live your destiny today, at this moment.
Inspire others
It is a constant effort, hard work (and inexplicably life-affirming activity) to recognize yourself, your beliefs and your purpose on this Earth. Choosing the path of your destiny is the most significant, because this harmonious and fulfilling lifestyle will be reflected in everything you do. Your sacred space and daily steps will make even more sense. You will build a beautiful world for your purpose. And over time, it will seem tempting to stay forever in this magical place you created and never return to everyday life. But the full and most important journey requires you to come back, share your purpose and thus inspire those around you.
Think of this search as a journey.
This journey is not new; perhaps it is one of the oldest undertakings of humanity. In some Inuit and Native American tribes, community members went on vision quests to find enlightenment. They went to wildlife for several days, often refusing to eat. The purpose of the journey was to reconnect with nature and the spirit world and experience dreams or waking visions that provide guidance through this immersion. At a certain period in their lives, Australian Aborigines went to wander, sometimes for several months - these were journeys that marked the transition to adulthood.
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Title: Between need and want. Find your path and follow it
Author: El Luna
Year: 2015
Genre: Self-improvement, Foreign applied and popular science literature, Personal growth, Foreign psychology
About the book “Between I need and I want. Find your path and follow it" El Luna
The book “Between Need and Want” by writer and designer El Luna is the least like a textbook on motivation. In appearance, it rather resembles a colorful notebook “with tips” - one of those that are positioned as a help for creative people. Only in her case, the pages that the reader has to fill with bright colors are the pages of his own life.
“Between need and want. Find your path and follow it” is a book about finding your true calling. Someone chooses their own path spontaneously or under the influence of the environment, and then for years - or throughout their life - they are afraid to leave it. For some reason, it is generally accepted that this is a mature position. Adults put up with an unsuccessful (or imposed) choice, stoically enduring the discomfort that it brings them. El Luna shows that everything is just the opposite: living according to the “should” principle is a childish position. The fact that a person is ready to endure boredom and dissatisfaction with everyday life when it comes to his future does not mean that he knows how to take responsibility. This suggests that he knows how to shoulder a burden. Different things, aren't they?
The writer will not scold those who, at 20-30+, still have not given up their excellent student complex. Its task is to charm, not disappoint. Captivate the reader with his own perspective. And this book has no age limits: special attention is paid to people who made that very choice - between “need” and “want” - at an age when, in the opinion of society, it is time to lead a sedate life of a person who devoted himself to his grandchildren and memories. What about an aspiring 90-year-old designer who triples his workload at Boston-based IDEO? Writing debut at 64? Flight into space after 70? These are not mythical examples from motivational literature, but real stories that El Luna introduces readers to.
Many publications have dubbed her book a manifesto, but the author herself suggests looking at it differently - as a guide to different options for the future. There are no good or bad ones among them, but there are yours and not yours. In this sense, the book is more than the traditional carrot and stick for creatives and doubters, because it gives the reader more than just the right to create and act. She allows him to live his own life.
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What I love, I think, is already clear. But many of my friends say that they somehow don’t have enough time to read. Well, this happens. And if, despite your bookish preferences, you now want to get a dose of inspiration and practical advice On the way to your dream, without wasting time studying many pages, the book “Between I Need and I Want” by El Luna is ideal for you.
“Between I need and I want” -
a very short and at the same time very capacious book about the most important and difficult path, the path to yourself. From reading the book you will receive not only briefly outlined instructions on how to work on yourself, but also aesthetic pleasure.
The author of the book, El Luna, is also an artist and designer. So all the pictures below are Elle's art from the book. In them, the words come to life, conveying with brightness everyone’s doubts that all this is true. There is happiness and it is in your great abilities. Show them off!
Do you have doubts and fears? Wonderful. Everyone has them. In any case, I have never met people without them. It's more interesting that way. There is something to work on, and you can appreciate all your transformations better.
What prevents you from surrendering to this flow? Having two rather than one path.
« Necessary- this is the opinion of others about how we should live"
They often tell you what is best for you, right? Many, many around. Some with a word, some with a glance, some from a magazine, and some from a screen. It’s a kind of noise, and for some reason it’s incessant. And sometimes the rustle of the morning stars breaks through, as Zealand calls it. And starts talking about some Want- our desires, beliefs, hobbies, this is what we believe in and what our Soul strives for, this is who we really are.
I want something so beautiful. And why do we even need this persistent need?
And each one has its own story. And if you want to get rid of it, give it time.
How to stop living according to the MUST principle?
Take a piece of paper and make a list of all the things you need. Study each phrase or big offer, where they come from and how easy it is for you to make decisions to simply cross him off this list and not deal with him anymore. If some Need has already taken root well, El Luna suggests the “Empty Chair” method. By the way, I recommended him.
In short, it's a conversation with yourself. You put two chairs, sitting on one, you imagine your Want, on the second - You Need. You can take a hat for one role, film a conversation, speak with different intonations. If only it would be better to get to the bottom of the reason for the appearance of Must and the possibility of letting him go.
I personally have never used this method yet. I don’t see any particular need for myself now. At this stage of my life, I’m a little (just a little) relaxed: “I’m on maternity leave, so if I want, I write on the blog, if I don’t want, I don’t write.”
But there is another very interesting question.
What if I don't know what I WANT to do?
Remember your childhood hobbies, write two obituaries, learn something new, look for repeating motifs, ask questions from the picture ⇓
Study yourself, search all the answers are in you.
Do you know your Want? Congratulations!
True, even in such situations we have questions. El Luga says there are 4 in total:
Now get started. Act. Start with a small step, but start.
There is no need to be a trickster and rush into the unknown. Although this will suit some people.
The most faithful I want are realized slowly, thoughtfully and quietly.
Come back to yourself. Be in the flow. Destination is the path. There will be crossroads on it many more times. Trust yourself and your inner voice. It will be easier that way :)
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