How to understand where your calling is. How to find your calling through meditation? Several ways to influence your destiny

There are many people on the planet who suffer from doing nothing (passivity and laziness) in search of their calling or purpose in life. An internal conviction, essentially the belief that a person is “destined” for something, for something... special, not like everyone else..., for something “called” - makes people constantly think about what I I want and try to understand myself, my inner “I”.

Question:“How to find your calling in life” (or purpose) can’t get out of the minds of many: both high school students who still don’t understand themselves, and those who feel that they have chosen the wrong one life path(profession) students, and unfulfilled “mature” individuals with infantilism in their reasoning...

How to find out your purpose, how to still find your calling in life - about all this especially for those who want to understand themselves and choose the right path in life, on the website psychological assistance http://site(about everything in order, step by step...)

What is a person’s vocation and purpose in life?

Vocation and destiny are similar concepts, but still somewhat different - the first is more realistic: something that can be realized, studied and explored, the second is mystical, as if intended (predestined) by Higher powers, God, the Universe...fate... - this is possible just believe.

However, at the everyday level, both vocation and purpose are essentially identical. The first is from the verb “to call”, i.e. when someone calls you to something, “showing” the path of life. For example, God called the ancient Jewish priest Saul (Saul), who, it would seem, already had a destiny to be a priest (he was an ardent persecutor of Christianity), to become the Apostle Paul, a preacher of faith in Christ. (picture above).

If you believe in the mystical, for example, in the fact that God is omnipotent and omnipresent, then it means that the High Priest Saul had a hidden, secret destiny from Above to become an apostle, and even with a different name - Paul?! (most of the messages to Christians in the New Testament are from the Apostle Paul, although he was not one of the 12 disciples of Christ, who, by the way, were also called upon to serve Christ).

In one of his letters, the Apostle Paul says: “Everyone remain in the rank in which called upon. Whether you are called to be a slave, do not be embarrassed; but if you can become free, then use the best.”

If we “return from Heaven to earth” in order to find our calling or life purpose, then it is neither man nor God who “calls” us to some kind of choice in life, but our soul (psyche). In transactional analysis (psychoanalysis), this is called a life script - attitudes programmed in the subconscious (learned patterns of thinking, feeling and behavior), in the process of upbringing and primary socialization (parental programming), according to which a person unconsciously builds his life and destiny (which, by the way, can be changed...if possible and desired...)
Quote above: “...but if you can become free, then take advantage of the best”

How to take advantage of the best and find your purpose (calling) in life

Let's take a closer look at how a person can find his purpose in life, if, of course, you really want to find your calling and become happy.

Believing in something or someone can be both good and bad. Every person believes in something, first of all, he completely and unconditionally trusts his inner convictions, and it doesn’t matter what kind they are - religious, mystical or more or less realistic...

These beliefs form a person’s worldview and stereotypical thinking, and the latter forms feelings and behavior in certain life situations.

All these scenario beliefs and beliefs in them “live” in our soul (psyche), it is from them that the call comes... they call us to be this or that person in life. It is on the basis of the life scenario programmed in childhood that we have this or that life purpose - and there is no mysticism.

When, for example, a person lived in a certain family (where programming takes place), say in a rich or poor family, then he is automatically programmed to be rich or poor. If a person is born and raised in royal family, then he is programmed to be a king - this is his destiny. However, his calling may be different. For example, he may be destined to rule the country as a king, but by vocation he may be a good military leader, general, politician, reformer or business executive... Look, for example, at the history of Russian monarchs - all of them were destined to be tsars (queens), but their vocation is everyone was different.

If a person grew up in a family of workers or peasants, then, as if automatically, there should be a destiny to follow the family tradition - to become a good hard worker or collective farmer. This would be the case if we lived a couple of centuries ago. Because then no other information came to mind except family information - the script program did not record other attitudes and beliefs that differed from family ones (people sometimes didn’t even go to school, didn’t read books, didn’t watch movies or TV..., they only communicated with the same hard workers and collective farmers).

Therefore, then the question did not arise: “How to find your calling or purpose in life,” and so everything was clear... no one suffered from idleness, soul-searching and empty thoughts - you had to work to live... and that’s all...

Where, for example, do dynasties come from? After all, there are dynasties of actors, circus performers, teachers, and even workers... Imagine that a child is constantly with his artist parents: at home, in the theater, at receptions, and on tour... The only (or main) information entering his head (programming) is the life of artists, well, how will he have a vocation or destiny to be, say, a miner or a sailor... especially if where he lives there are no mines or sea.

If, nevertheless, he becomes a sailor, considering this his calling, he will inspire (give instructions) for this choice, again, information from the psyche (soul), brought there, for example, from books, films about the sea, or interesting sea stories and stories.

How to understand yourself and find out your life purpose and calling

Usually those people who cannot understand themselves and recognize their life purpose and calling suffer either from an excess of thoughts, fantasies, dreams and desires, or from spiritual emptiness.

Their life program, of course, is basically predetermined - they, according to the script, are losers or trivials - they are “destined” (“by calling”) “not destined” to be a winner (to achieve serious success in life).

However, if they still really want to understand themselves, their inner “I”, the secrets of their soul, then they will freely be able to find themselves in life, find out their purpose and calling.

Look at the conditional diagram(from a structural analysis of personality), what the soul and personality of a person consists of. Then you will be able to better understand, know yourself: your true desires, motives, thinking, emotions and behavior, you will be able to find out your calling and purpose.


If you don’t have an inclination, a constant inner attraction and ability to do something, then you don’t have a calling yet.

What you see in the “soul diagram” (pic. above): three large circles - “P” (Parental Self), “B” (Adult Self) and “D” (Child Self) - are internal subpersonalities, in simple terms, modern language one might say - folders, files with some information stored since childhood. ()

The upper “parental” circle (“R-2”) stores all the information (introjected) you copied from early childhood from your real parents or other important persons, including characters from films, books, etc. Essentially, these are your parents with their attitudes and beliefs (stereotypes) stored in their heads.

If you have too many thoughts, orders, prohibitions and prescriptions, as well as convictions and beliefs that form stereotypical thinking - this is from this file (P-2), and not your own...

Also, there are three “subfolders” in the “file” D-2 (this is the Child Ego state, the child self) - in fact, this is you, only in childhood. The main scenario program of life is stored here. For example, from the “folder” P-1 (Parent in the Child - aka the internal enemy), all the negativity comes out, which confuses you about your calling and your purpose, because... the purpose (who I need to be) comes from the “family, parental file R-2,” and the calling (who I want to be) comes from the “subfolder” D-1 (natural Child).

If you have a lot of obsessive, confused, provocative, adventurous, often erroneous thoughts that prevent you from making a true decision and a lot of negative convictions that lead you to complexes, low self-esteem, fears and phobias, neuroses, etc. - this is from the “internal enemy R-1”

Intrapersonal conflict, about who to be or who I am, arises due to disagreement between R-2 and D-2. In your head you may be aware of many different thoughts about the same object, phenomenon - in essence - it is internal dialogue between subpersonalities.

For example, your “upper P-2 parent” tells you in your head that you need to become a doctor (I must), and your “Natural Child” says I want to become a lawyer. Disagreement.
At the same time, the “internal enemy P-1”, pretending to be the “top parent”, tells you that it is best to be an economist.

Many of us believe in the existence of a magical substance called “calling.” “If only I could find my calling,” we say bitterly. “I would be happy if I found my calling...”

What can I say? Vocation is a reality, and an incredibly powerful one. But almost everything people know about his search is completely wrong. This is exactly what Oliver Emberton talks about in his latest article. We continue to reflect on personal effectiveness!

First rule: Vocation is a consequence of success

All our emotions arise as a consequence of something. We experience hunger in order to maintain the vital functions of the body and not die from malnutrition. Saturation comes as a signal that there is enough food, and if you continue to eat, you may burst. And we feel that we have found a calling, as confirmation that our efforts are focused on what we get the best possible results from.

Imagine that you have signed up for a dance course. It's easy for you. You quickly realize that you do better than others.

The growing inspiration that you experience is your calling. This is what motivates you to come again and again, develop skills and increase the intensity of the load.

The main enemy of such interest is disappointment. If you constantly struggle with something, you will definitely never find your calling in it. You are completely trying to avoid such situations, denying the very possibility of development in this area.

Many people realize this as time passes. They think that if we find our calling, this a priori distinguishes us in some area. Basically, it's more like self-hypnosis about your worth. In reality, calling is a consequence of success.

Second rule: Childhood is the time when vocation is destroyed in the bud

Theoretically, in childhood there is a unique opportunity to try yourself everywhere, to discover your talents and interests.

But think for a second how much the system is working against you. The school gives you the opportunity to study 20 subjects, while comparing you with thousands of other children. This is far from a level playing field. Most children, by definition, have average abilities. And it doesn’t matter at all how much we develop the education system, because people need to feel exceptional in order to find a calling, and the system simply raises the bar for the “average level.”

Let's say you were lucky enough to show extraordinary abilities in mathematics in elementary school. The education system will help you grow to a certain level - for example, to a university - where you are no longer an exception. Even if you are objectively incredibly smart, one day you will simply feel like an average person and find that all the passion disappears. And this is provided that you are a lucky person, inclined towards the exact sciences.

What if your soul lies in art? Even in childhood, interest in this area is doomed to be condemned by social realities. “It’s impossible to make a living from painting,” your parents say. “Your brother excelled in engineering. Why don't you follow in his footsteps? So, you put all your aspirations aside and let them fade away.

The planet's population numbers billions of people. Obviously, not everyone can be extraordinarily gifted in a limited number of academic subjects. What if your talent lies in public speaking, or dancing, or creating YouTube video announcements for video games? None of this is in the school curriculum.

Thus, most people grow up with no interest in anything.

Rule three: a calling can be created

This rule will help you understand that the most successful people chose an unfinished script, just like taking a book from a shelf.

In fact, many successful people have dropped out. Not because they were stupid - but because they discovered other areas where they found use for themselves. The education system would not have noticed this.

They created their own sphere of interest.

Only a very small proportion of people can excel in the highly specialized subjects that school offers in childhood. And, in fact, your competitors in this area are “everyone who went to school.” This does not improve your chances at all.

But if you go beyond that, you'll find less competition and more opportunity. And here you take the first step towards new opportunities.

Possibility 1: Create something

When you create something new, you are inventing something to interest your tastes.

You could design new couch cushions, or write about Batman, or create a Twitter account where you write reviews about the work of politicians.

New things are relatively undeniable. By creating something new, your opportunity to become special in that area increases enormously.

Now, it is important to note that this does not change the first rule: calling is a consequence of success. So if your new Twitter account has only gained 5 followers in a year, you're probably not going to be very inspired. But if you had 5 million subscribers, you would quit your job. You have to be successful to fuel your interest.

But at the very least, you've greatly expanded your options because competition is limited. Only a few people will dare to try something new. And you can become one of them just by getting started.

You can detect this tendency in the example of prominent individuals. Student Mark did not set out to become the best programmer in the world. But he began to create good websites, and found that he was very good at it, because better programmers than him had never tried to create something new. And quite by chance it happened that one of his small experiments was social network Facebook.

Opportunity 2: Set a trend

The older and more established your area of ​​interest becomes, the more difficult it will be to compete in it. Millions of people before you tried to do this, and the less they differed from the rest, the less opportunities they had to find their calling in this area.

But you can always find new area interests is an area where any other person is completely unsuitable, and even your modest skills can be impressive.

Let's imagine that you are a teenager who started filming and posting videos on YouTube back in 2001. People follow you and your increasing success inspires you. By the time the “adult” world realized that YouTube was a promising project with a four billion daily audience, you had become a recognized master of a new and invaluable art.

This is not fiction. A huge number of successful YouTubers started the same way: before everyone else. It's the same story with the first bloggers, rappers and video game designers.

If you have found something new that is constantly developing, and learned to use it early, it will not be difficult for you to stand out, thanks to minimal competition. This is where your calling lies.

Possibility 3: Combining Abilities

The education system limits the range of your abilities. She usually finds the area in which you are most capable and develops it as long as you can stand it.

The problem is that most of us, by definition, cannot be the best in any one area. But we can be exceptional in our combinations of abilities.

Let's say you are a good artist with a good sense of humor. You won't find yourself if you take an academic degree in the arts, but you won't be able to study "humor" as a subject either. But you could become a great animator.

Or take the average management student with programming ability and good sales skills. This person is surprisingly well suited to be a leader for those who were better than him in only one area.

Most successful people It is almost impossible to characterize them as specialists in any one field. They represent a collection of skills and abilities and are often not outstanding. But they made this collection special. Steve Jobs was not the best engineer in the world or a consummate salesman, designer, or businessman. But he was undeniably good enough in all of these areas, and made something much more out of them.

The main advice on the path to finding your calling: combine your abilities into something more valuable. Remember, calling is a consequence of success. If the combination of your abilities is effective, this may be your calling.

Why is calling important?

The calling is attractive. Since it is based on the belief in its exclusivity, then to be interested is the right way say to yourself: “By the way, I’m cool.”

Your interest will make people follow you. Makes them believe you. But more importantly, your passion will interest you. Engagement is an emotion designed to make you go crazy and go out of your way just because you truly believe it can change the world. Such passion, like love, is a feeling worth fighting for.

And, like love, what you find yourself in is too important to be left to chance. If you haven't found your calling yet, make discoveries, set trends, combine abilities. But never stop looking for something new!

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Living in harmony with oneself is one of the greatest blessings a person can achieve. And in many ways, the possession of this good depends on what he devotes his life, time and energy to; Is he happy doing this? And no matter from which side we look at this problem, it will in any case lead us to the search for purpose. It is unlikely, of course, that we will offer a ready-made way to find your calling, but we are still confident that the reflections and advice from this article will allow you to answer at least some of your troubling questions.

Why are we looking for ourselves?

Today there are many articles and materials devoted to how to find your calling in life, in your profession, etc. There are even special tests on this topic, for example, the famous one. Some tips and recommendations are more effective, some less. But, be that as it may, any discussion about the meaning of life comes down to the fact that the search for one’s calling is a natural state of a person.

Thinking and developing people have no doubt that there must be some kind of global task of life to which they can devote themselves with pleasure; for which it will be easy to wake up at 6 in the morning and rush headlong to do something somewhere; on which you won’t be sorry to waste your time and energy. Such activities can become the meaning of human existence.

It is this premise that indicates that in order to find happiness and contentment, you must seek your calling. It must correspond to aspirations, talents and abilities. In addition, in many cases, the work of life allows you to earn a living, and a fairly comfortable one at that. However, finding purpose can be quite difficult, as evidenced by common life experience - many people never find it in their entire lives.

Next we will talk about obstacles on the path to finding purpose and overcoming them, but first we invite you to watch a short video in which an expert personal development Yitzhak Pintosevich tells how to find your mission.

What do you want?

Difficulties in finding one's purpose, contrary to popular belief, are not due to luck, karma, or the fact that a person was not lucky enough to find an activity that matches his aspirations, needs and desires. The problem needs to be looked much deeper, although the answer, in fact, lies on the surface.

No matter how strange it may sound, almost no one asks themselves why they should look for purpose at all. People simply take the idea of ​​this search for granted, believing that they must become an entrepreneur, scientist, politician, doctor, actor, etc., and then devote their entire lives to this profession. In other words, a specialty is equivalent to a vocation. But the belief that the purpose of life is to find and find a calling is precisely what serves as a serious obstacle to the path to destiny. Let's understand a little about what this means.

Most people fail to find their calling because they ask the basic questions incorrectly. For them, they look something like this: “Which social role best suits my abilities and talents?”, “Which social role will suit me best?”, “Which role will allow me to realize myself?” etc. The answers to these questions are not easy to find because they are wrong.

To find your favorite job or life's work, you need to ask questions differently, namely: “What do I want in life and what do I need to do to achieve it?”, “Is there any social role that will help me achieve my goal?” ?”, “If there is no such role, what else can I use to achieve my goal?” By asking ourselves such questions, we no longer put the social role at the forefront, but focus on our desires. Moreover, we can not only subordinate the role to our goals, but also, if necessary, get rid of it altogether. That’s why it makes sense to talk a little specifically about goals.

The importance of life goals

A little talk about goals will help us better understand the essence of the above. For example, you already know what you want from life. You love life and learning new things. You want to be independent and free, so it is important for you to live and enjoy life, communicate, travel and explore the world around you. You want your actions to make the world a better place, at least a little.

These are your life goals. But what can you do to realize them? What social role is right for you: writer, teacher, psychologist, director? Which profession and business suits your main needs? As you can see, the answer is difficult to give. But what if you try to come up with a profession that suits you? What kind of profession will it be?

First, your work shouldn't . You will start a family and have children, and naturally you will want to spend more time with your loved ones. Therefore, your calling should leave you more time than what your regular job allows. In addition, you have a desire to devote your time to hobbies and hobbies, such as self-development, hiking, reading books, sports, cinema, music, chatting with friends, etc.

You have absolutely no desire to be “attached” to your workplace, and spend 5-6 days a week there from morning to evening, come home angry and tired, have two measly weeks of vacation for 6 months of endless work. Your favorite job or life's work should allow you to enjoy every day, relax regularly, discover new places and communicate with your family. Based on this, it is better to make your source of income remote and autonomous, at least in part.

But you do not prioritize independence and freedom, and are quite ready to devote as much time and effort to your calling as necessary. But this is only true if the activity allows you to realize your plans, receive inspiration and feedback. Therefore, it is best that your business belongs to you, but if this is not the case, it in any case should give you the freedom that you dream of.

You probably noticed that so far we are only talking about working conditions, but its content remains in question. So what exactly should you do? You can become a programmer or copywriter (or choose another direction of freelancing), or you can. The most important thing here is that this business allows you to earn money and remain free.

But what about personal preference and benefiting people? And here lies the trick - no one actually says that it depends on the job. Think for yourself: once you start doing the ideal business that gives you freedom and prosperity, you will get a lot of time that you can devote to what interests you.

Of course, it would be good if the source of income itself already allowed you to do this, but, firstly, today’s realities are such that there is very little such “work”, and secondly, this is not necessary. For example, you can try to monetize this business in order to achieve your goals. But at the same time, you can master the art of photography and start selling your services as a photographer. For this, of course, you also need to work hard, but then you will have time to write.

We can develop what has been said for a very long time, but already now we can draw one fundamental conclusion: a vocation in mandatory must be subordinated life goals. And here the question of choosing this vocation, both in life and in profession, deserves special attention.

The ability to choose

The way you earn money does not have to match your talents or calling, but it should allow you to achieve your goals. Let's return to our examples: it is likely that you do not have a photographer's instinct, and photography is not in your blood. But agree: wouldn’t you engage in professional photography if it allowed you to be independent and free, have a lot of time to do what you love, and make the world a better place by bringing beauty into it? Most likely, you wouldn't mind this kind of work.

Each of us needs a means of subsistence - this is a fact of life. You may not be in the clouds with happiness, running around brides and grooms with your “photo gun,” but if this business does not require constant employment and allows you to live well, then why not, right?

Many people work 6 days a week, and how wonderful it would be if they enjoyed such work, because they practically live on it. However, this is not at all the case, but they still work, although it is not their choice in the full sense of the word. Despite this, when looking for a vocation, they try to make their lives better so that the need for an unloved job disappears forever.

And this is where choice comes into play: in search of their purpose, people begin to change one job for another, one employer for another, one six-day or five-day schedule for another. Does this make sense? It would not be an exaggeration if we say that there is no point here, because... it's running in circles. It would be naive to believe that, as a seller, we, having changed one trading floor on the other, we will find our calling. Sales is just an example, but it applies to any field.

Perhaps there is some wisdom in changing your profile altogether? But even here you can drive yourself into the same trap: now you are no longer a salesperson, but an office manager, and now you are no longer a manager, but an IT specialist in a large office, but what has changed? But nothing has changed - you still get up in the morning, rush to work and do something that anyone needs, but not you, continuing to dream that one day the search for purpose will be crowned with success.

Engaging in any activity that does not bring you closer to achieving your goals is wasting your time. Making a choice between in different forms the same activity, you will never find your calling, because you choose where the choice simply does not exist. And this is the second main problem that prevents you from finding your purpose. And from here another fundamental conclusion follows: calling can lie in completely different things.

But you shouldn’t think that the problems we’ve discussed exhaust the issue of finding your favorite job or life’s work. There are several other equally important things that make it difficult to find your purpose.

Limitation and routine

It happens that a person seems to find his calling, but, contrary to logic, it becomes not the source of his happiness, but a stumbling block. Try to understand an important idea: having found in life what you like and what you will need to give all of yourself to, you risk losing your freedom and independence. A new activity may simply limit you, and after some time of joy, you realize that you have painted yourself into a corner again.

Or the business of life does not mean finding a new wheel in which you need to run like a squirrel. You should remain careful when diving headlong into new hobbies and placing all your bets on them. There should always be room for maneuver, and this means not limiting yourself to just one thing. As we said, calling can lie in different things, but in order to find them, you need to have space for searching.

In addition, almost any activity always includes an element of routine, and you can simply get tired of any work, even the most creative one. It is, of course, possible to find something that will bring you pleasure for the rest of your life, but it is very, very difficult, and there is a high probability that in a couple of years not a trace will remain of your former passion.

In your search for purpose, you must always keep in mind the idea that over time you will want to change something again. The desire for change is a normal state for a person, and therefore we once again say that there is no need to squeeze yourself into the framework of any one occupation or one profession. To believe that the meaning of life lies in one thing is fundamentally wrong.

From all this we can conclude that you need to try to look for several directions that correspond to your life goals, and do what you want. at the moment I want to. And yet, how to find such things? This question is absolutely appropriate, because talking and thinking is one thing, but doing is completely different.

Finding the right direction

Determining the right direction to move is not easy, because you need to find something that will meet your goals. We think you will agree with us that every person strives for happiness - this is a natural need. But the ways to achieve this state will differ in each individual case.

We (and not only us) have said more than once that for the most part the state of happiness is determined by the internal state of a person rather than by external factors. Happiness is inner harmony, adequate perception of the world around us, but not the presence of a car and a country house or the status of director of a large company.

If a person is unhappy within his being, no amount of worldly goods will change the situation. Maybe sometimes it will seem to him that he is happy and everything in life is wonderful, but these moments are so momentary that they will disappear when the joy of owning something begins to fade. As a result, an understanding will come that this is not happiness, and the whole cycle will begin all over again.

We want to say that it is not entirely correct to set the goal of achieving certain material benefits. The most important thing is to find happiness in yourself, and after that you will understand what to strive for in life, what to devote it to, what your purpose is.

The life experience of a huge number of people says that no spiritual or life search brings success if a person does not know what exactly makes him happy. People change professions and jobs, move from place to place, hoping that now everything will become different. But joy never comes, everything repeats itself, and disappointment and depression sets in.

So the whole fuss is that these people could not find their internal source happiness. And to prevent the situation from getting worse, you need to ask yourself: “Why am I unhappy? What is the cause of my suffering? Am I going down the right path or am I trying to open those doors that will forever remain locked to me?

No, we won't argue that internal state What we do, our state of security, and the possession of material goods greatly influences it. But this is not the root cause, and the understanding that you are not living your life in vain should in no way depend on money, cars, apartments, iPhones, or even on achieving goals. Happiness must be inside, otherwise even the found purpose will not change anything.

It is necessary to look for your favorite job or life’s work, search for purpose and determine your life goals and priorities, starting with yourself. What makes you happy? Only you can answer this question, and to find the answers, you need to, again, ask yourself:

• What would I like to change in this world?
• What do I want to change in my life?
• What did I like to do as a child?
• What did I dream about when I was little?
• What do I enjoy doing and what could I become better at?
• What could I do over the years?

Take this unique test, write down the answers to the questions, and then choose a time and think about them carefully. And also remember that life is fleeting, and the older we get, the faster time flies. Would you be doing what you are doing now if you suddenly found out that you had six months or a year at most to live? If the answer to this question is no, think about what you would do if such a situation happened, and why are you even doing something that doesn’t matter to you?

In most cases, people always know what they want from life. But with age, many aspirations and desires are “overwritten”, dreams seem unrealistic, reality becomes the need to do some things, solve problems, and earn money. Life turns into a road to nowhere. But this can be changed if you ask yourself the right questions, take responsibility for yourself and your desires, accept the idea of ​​time passing and build actions in accordance with all this.

Summary of thoughts

At the beginning of our article, we said that we are unlikely to be able to offer a ready-made method for finding your purpose. And this is true, because finding a calling is a purely individual matter, even to some extent intimate. There are no templates or techniques that you can simply follow and everything will be resolved, as if by magic.

But we still think that our reflections on the meaning of life and happiness can guide your thoughts (and future actions) in the right direction. To understand what you need, note those moments when you get a feeling of harmony, peace and that everything is fine.

You can sit in the office for years, and one day, succumbing to the persuasion of a friend, forcefully jump with a parachute and realize that this is what you have dreamed of all your life. You can throw boxes in a warehouse, and one day write because you have nothing to do short story and understand that this is exactly what you wanted to do since childhood. You can go on vacation and, while lying on the beach, come up with the idea of ​​working remotely in order to be able to explore the world, and, ultimately, come up with website design.

In general, the answer to the question of how to find your purpose is, among other things, to have the courage and audacity to follow the call of your desires and dreams; to give free rein to your imagination; is to understand that your happiness is in your hands. Study yourself, communicate with purposeful and passionate people, expand your own boundaries, reflect on life, try new things, spend time on what is important to you, what you like, and do not indulge your weaknesses and habits. This is what will allow you to find your calling.

And, of course, we simply cannot help but recommend you a couple of books on this topic. This is the book “Set Goals! Find your goal and achieve it in 1 year” (Ichak Pintosevich) and “Find your calling. How to discover your true talents and fill your life with meaning" (Ken Robinson). And also watch this video from Ken Robinson, where this amazing man talks about calling and its meaning.

We sincerely hope that our short philosophical and analytical essay has clarified some points for you about finding your calling, and you will be able to find something you like, your favorite job or life’s work. We wish you good luck and loyalty to yourself!

Life calling is primarily associated with the choice of profession. But we are talking about a profession that will become the basis and meaning of life. To become a good specialist, you need not just to acquire professional knowledge, skills and abilities, but to feel the harmony of your personal “I” and professional “I”. We will talk about how to achieve this.

The ideal activity corresponds to, interests, and. Under this condition, the person is satisfied with himself and his work.

Job satisfaction criteria:

• time passes unnoticed, Mondays don’t seem like hard days;
• every day is perceived as new opportunities, and not as another torment;
• you don’t feel tired; on the contrary, your energy level increases;
• you enjoy going to work;
• they come to you for professional advice.

So what is a calling? This is what you want and can do, get paid for it, and make a tangible contribution to society. Although financial benefits do not always bring the desired results. But if we are talking about a profession, then over time this can really be achieved.

What prevents you from finding a calling?

Some people don't even begin to look for their calling. They are stopped by self-doubt, public,.

It’s rare that someone manages to find their path the first time. More often, people take “their” place in adulthood. But to find this place, you need to try yourself in different professions and fields. This is where many stop: leaving the usual, trying something new, deviating from the usual is scary.

The situation gets worse if society puts pressure on a person. This happens when there is a desire to exchange a stable job in an office for unstable self-employment, realizing one’s dreams, discovering personal potential. Some say that this is not serious, others say that you need to feed your family, children, and pay off your mortgage. And sometimes this really happens. Not everyone can take risks, give up everything and go nowhere. But some people are only held back by their “demons” of consciousness. There are no loans, no wives, but fear turns out to be stronger than desire try yourself in a new direction.

Another obstacle is comparing yourself to others. You should never rely on someone else's success or failure. You are not this person. You have different experience, habits, knowledge, abilities. In some ways you are worse and in some ways better than other people, because you are basically a different person. In any case, you can only compare yourself with yourself.

Well, the last thing that often prevents a person from finding himself in life is the expectation of quick results, the inability to experience failures, weak, insufficient determination. Any business requires time to master, even if you have the appropriate inclinations and inclinations for this type of activity. After all, it is the result of hard work.

In many cases, the result is delayed. At first, the effort involved far outweighs the results. But it is important to remember the future and adequately evaluate the results at the moment.

How to find a calling

To determine your vocation, I suggest using two interrelated exercises. There are many methods that allow you to get to know yourself better and decide on a profession, but these, in my opinion, are the most effective, concise and multifunctional.

Self-portrait

Conduct a written analysis, search for common ground of interests, skills, abilities, character. How to do it:

• write down 20 striking traits of your character, strengths;
• write down 20 things you love to do;
• write down 20 points of what you can do or what you can learn if you wish.

Analyze the results, write down several professions in which you can try yourself. For example, you love to be the center of attention, you have a loud voice, and you know how to attract and win over people. Perhaps you should take a vocal course and try yourself in this area. They say that anyone can be taught to sing. But not all people are endowed with a strong voice.

Portrait of a profession

Describe in detail your preferred employment: schedule, working hours, weekends, responsibilities. The more points you write, the better. It is important to know not only your own characteristics, but also to know what exactly you are looking for, what kind of job you dream of. Don’t forget to ask yourself questions: “Why do I need this job?”, “What do I want and can give to society?”

See if there are any overlapping positions in the results of the first and second tasks. If in doubt, contact someone you trust. The more independent experts you involve, the better.

Afterword

A calling is a message, an idea that you bring to the world. This is your task, the desire to change something in society. Think about how you can help this world, how you can and want to improve it.

Think about whether there is something you are willing to do even for free. Is there something you can’t imagine yourself without? Do it in any condition, at any time. Look for your calling in this area.

“There is one thing that most people do not know: happiness is possible only when you realize yourself as a person, when you realize your calling, your nature. If you stick to something, some familiar place, stability - there will be stability. But there will never be satisfaction. Internally you need to weigh what you want: external stability or to be happy man", - Oleg Gadetsky, psychologist.

A calling is a passion, an obsession, it is what makes us burn, it can become one of the meanings of your life. And after a person finds his calling, his life will never be the same. It is divided into “before and after”. That's right and it's not a joke!

Van Gogh got up at 5 am every day and by the end of the day he had a completed painting. During my short creative life the artist created more than 800 paintings and 700 drawings. Incredible productivity, right?

Leo Tolstoy, during the period of his literary creativity, left a legacy in the form of more than 270 works of literary creativity. Mozart created music anywhere, even in the middle of a noisy party, he could compose music on an ordinary paper napkin. Imagine if all of the above became “engineers”. We would lose a serious part of the world's cultural heritage.

What if Leo Tolstoy, Coco Chanel or Van Gogh are dormant within us? And we lock them in a cage with a sign saying “accountant”, “engineer” or “lawyer”. How to find your calling in work?

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We are looking for what brings us pleasure.

“What do you like to do? What do you like to do? A calling should be fun. Write a list of 30 activities that you enjoy doing. Don't think, just write whatever comes to mind. Brainstorming is announced! Can the following questions serve as a hint for you?

“What did you like to do as a child, as a teenager?” During this period, especially during early childhood, we most often do not need to be someone, we do not need to earn money and think about how we will survive. Our parents do all this for us. And it was at this moment that we did what we loved, what we liked. Remember what you wanted to become as a child. You can involve your family - they will probably remember something interesting about your childhood hobbies.

“What can’t you help but do?” Do you look through magazines and always dress stunningly, give advice to your girlfriends on how to behave with a man, endlessly take pictures of everything and everyone, do you read a lot or are you a desperate music lover? At this stage, you can already think about the question: how can I stop this as a profession? Don't forget to write it down, it's very important.

“What do you want to learn?” This question is a lifeline for those who have difficulties with the previous two. If it happened that “adult life” blocked all escape routes, it doesn’t matter. It's never too late to learn. Write at least 5 points of what you would definitely like to learn. And your task is to select training courses for yourself in the near future. And please don’t think: what will I do with it later? What if this is not a calling? What if you work in a job you don’t like until you are 60?

“What do you absolutely hate doing?” This list will also be extremely useful. Your task is not to break yourself for the sake of work, but to understand your characteristics and choose a vocation taking into account your unique qualities and character traits. Do you feel the difference?

Determining what works well

“What am I good at?” Better than everyone else, no worse than others, better than some, and so on. What are you really good at? Call your relatives, acquaintances, colleagues for help and don’t let them out of your hands until they name 5 things that you do well.

Finding an area of ​​interest

What kind of granite do you chew on regularly? It can be anything: specialized literature, educational events, forums, biographies, films, programs, special magazines. Observe yourself during the week, what sources of information do you resort to most often and what is this information about? This will help you understand your calling and how to find yourself in adulthood.

We exclude the influence of the monetary factor

Money is not a strong enough motivation to for a long time keep us in a business that we are not interested in. Therefore, we take pens and a notepad and answer the question: “What would I do if I had enough money?” Of course, for a couple of weeks we would just lie in bed and do nothing, but gradually boredom would begin to overcome us. Therefore, try to imagine yourself in a similar situation and be sure to write down at least 10 activities of your carefree life.

We give shape and select possible vocation options

After our fruitful analysis, you should have a pile of scribbled paper in front of you. If not, return to stage No. 1, since further movement is pointless for you. The next task is to give shape to desires. Namely, to understand in which area you can realize yourself. The result will be a list of professions lying in front of you. Brainstorming continues!

For example, if you have a strong inclination towards the fashion industry, you can be a columnist, journalist, designer, open a store or online store, or create a blog.

You need to get a feel for the profession

All you can do to understand is try. Immerse yourself in your intended calling at least once. You can have 1000 and 1 guess, but in reality everything may turn out differently. Dreaming about a calling and working are two completely different things. The most important thing is that you feel good while working. Some of the unpleasant routine can then be transferred to other people. How to join a new team.

Feedback

To become truly successful in your calling, your product and services must have consumers. Without unnecessary talk, without modesty - post the products of your creativity online, demonstrating yourself. It is likely that one of your acquaintances, friends or colleagues will ask: “Can I do this? And I want it too!”

How to find your calling in the profession: working with objections

The next block is for doubters. We begin to work with objections and inhibitory mechanisms.

“I won’t make any money from this.” Think about the question: “Does anyone in the world make money from this?” Is anyone getting an income that will be enough?” If someone is already making money, then you can too.

“I’m too old to change anything.” A huge misconception common to people of all ages. We would forever lose one of the fashion trendsetters, Christine Dior, because he began working as a designer women's clothing only at 42 years old. Or Van Gogh only began taking painting lessons at the age of 27 and then could no longer stop in his work. Therefore, age is not an obstacle.

“I don’t have the necessary skills and professional education.” Sphere additional education now offers a huge number of courses on a variety of topics. In a short period of time, you can easily acquire the necessary skills. And the best education is practice. Therefore, even if you decide to get additional education, start working right away.

"I'm afraid to start all over again." Find your duty notebook, divide the sheet of paper into two columns. Now we will describe your future in 50 years, no joke! On the left, describe how you see your future, if you still haven’t decided to change something and go towards your calling. On the right, try to imagine what your life will be like if you find your calling. Which option do you prefer?

It's never too late to take a step towards your calling, just imagine how different your life will become. A calling is not a magical treasure buried in the impenetrable jungle of the unconscious. This is what lies on the surface. And your task is simply to understand how to find your calling.

Text: Anastasia Zaloga